〜たら〜たで

Means "if a certain state is realized, that very fact then creates a separate problem or trouble." It expresses resignation or grumbling that even if the desired situation comes about, in the end it is still unsatisfying, and that things are troublesome whichever way they turn out. Repeating the same word before and after is basic. 「〜なら〜で」「〜ば〜で」 are variants with the same meaning, with only the conditional form changed.